The viral Reddit post has received 15,600 upvotes since u/Non-Basic6779 posted it on November 13.

The husband describes his wife as a “picky eater” and states it is “bothersome to a certain degree” as she refuses to eat certain foods. This causes a problem for the couple during holidays, as her mother-in-law takes offense.

The man has been called an “a*******” by Redditors for refusing to “compromise” with his wife, who suggested bringing her dinner to his mom’s.

Newsweek spoke to a clinical psychologist about the post, and she said: “When compromising is a possibility, lean into it.”

The C.S. Mott Children’s Hospital National Poll revealed 35 percent of 1,200 U.S. parents with at least one child aged 1 to 10 stated their child is a picky eater.

The eating habits can continue into adulthood and research has found that feeding strategies during childhood that were “seen as coercive were not helpful in increasing their food variety. Coercive strategies included being forced to eat something, parents becoming angry due to their food avoidance, and not being allowed to leave the table until they finished eating.”

In this case, the original poster (OP) states he had an argument with his wife after suggesting she tries his mom’s food.

“She said it wasn’t about my mom’s cooking, she doesn’t like certain foods. We had an argument and I ended up telling [her], she could stay home this thanksgiving and have whatever meal she likes. She got quiet [and] then lashed out at me calling me insensitive and negative to say this to her.

“I repeatedly asked her to calm down but she couldn’t stop ranting about how I was basically willing to exclude her from a major event.

“She started cold-shouldering me about it while at the same time guilting me saying I’m treating her poorly after she offered the “perfect compromise,” he wrote.

Newsweek reached out to Lauren Cook, who has a master of science in marriage and family therapy from the University of Southern California.

“When compromising is a possibility, lean into it. In the case of the Reddit post, his wife offered to bring her own food so that she could still be with her spouse and his family. This is a compromise worth taking. Remember—it’s more about time spent together than getting lost in the details. We need to focus more on quality time together rather than being caught up in who is right or wrong.

“It’s not about getting your way, it’s about giving a little to get to a resolution. The problem is when either partner sticks their heels in the mud because they didn’t get exactly what they wanted. This stubbornness only exacerbates the problem and tends to pull a relationship farther apart rather than closer together. If your ultimate goal is to keep your relationship intact, then hold on to the desire to be together than to be ‘right.’

“In most day-to-day situations, a compromise is possible, and in fact, preferred. When your partner is willing to give a bit—gladly accept their resolution. Don’t fight it if it isn’t exactly the way you had wanted—that’s why it’s called a compromise.

“You can always ask yourself if you’re struggling: ‘Is this worth dying on a hill over?’ ‘Will this matter in one month, a year?’ While some battles are worth picking—what you eat at the dinner table is rarely worth something going to bat over. Be glad your partner is with you rather than fighting the practicalities of the matter,” she told Newsweek.

Almost 9,000 people have commented on the post, many of whom have taken his wife’s side.

The top comment has received over 44,000 upvotes, it said: “You’re the A*******. She offered [a] compromise. My wife’s family does the feast of the 7 fishes. I hate fish. So since I joined the family it’s the feast of the 7 fishes and a chicken. We all get a good laugh and my mother-in-law is happy to make it for me.”

“You’re the a******* for not standing up for your wife. She’s trying very hard to make holidays work with your family, but you only care about your Mommy’s feelings. If your mother is so thin-skinned that she can’t handle the idea that people have different dietary needs, she doesn’t get to host parties,” said another popular comment that received more than 33,000 upvotes.

Newsweek reached out to u/Non-Basic6779 for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.